Isaiah 43:18-19 “Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.”
God can do anything – He can even provide streams in the wasteland. Without a doubt, my wasteland is the wounded people I love – those incapable of the relationship I want, desire, crave. I want so much more, but I’ve had to come to grip with reality and understand the relationship is what it is. Ever been there? It’s the desert. It’s a wasteland. It’s grief and sadness and loss. It isn’t what it’s supposed to be and there’s nothing I can do about it. So I have a choice – to stay stuck in the sadness of what might have been or what I wish it could be or accept things as they are. Accept I have no power or ability to change things.
At times the loss is painful and I want to fix it; it could be so much different – more – but it’s not. My wounded loved ones can’t – their mountain of pain and hurt is too intimidating, too high to climb. So instead of doing the hard work of healing and change, they choose to stay stuck. They choose to keep the patterns of dysfunction; use denial and other coping mechanisms to keep themselves safe…and everyone else at a distance.
“forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.”
There was a time this scripture would have given me false hope. This scripture would be for them. This scripture would be about those I love and are at odds with – they are the ones who need change.
Thankfully, I have enough experience, mistakes, counseling, insanity (doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome) to know this scripture isn’t for them, it’s for me. It is real hope. It tells meGod can and will do a new thing in me. He can and will heal and restore me. Click To TweetIf I let go of the past, forgive and move forward, He can do a new thing. He can make a way in the desert and create streams in a wasteland. When I surrender the relationship I want for what He has, I get a new thing. “Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing.” I don’t have to stay stuck in the past of hurt, rejection and unmet needs. I don’t have to grieve the loss of a relationship forever. If I let Him, God will turn my ashes to beauty and provide a stream in the wasteland.